I tried to imagine what it must have been like at Sandy Hook Elementary School on that Friday morning that will forever be part of our collective psyche. Then I tried not to. I thought about a precious three year-old child to whom I am deeply attached and felt the pain of what it would be like to lose her in so vicious and horrific a way. Again, I tried not to. I wept for the loss of the six brave women, still so young themselves, who did everything in their power to keep their young students safe.
When a minister cried trying to say what it was like to tell a child that his sibling was dead, I cried with him. When a teacher said, “I told them I loved them very much. I wanted that to be the last thing they heard, not a gun shot,” I wept again. And I wept to see the pain our president struggled to contain as he spoke to a stunned nation immediately after the tragedy occurred.
Who among us did not weep at the thought of the all mighty wail that arose when terrified parents were told there would be no more children coming out of the firehouse on that dreadful day?
Sadly, the answer is the monsters who posted social media messages using the N-word to refer to the president when their football game was interrupted for Mr. Obama’s remarks. It is the NRA’s gutless leadership who took four days to issue a tepid and gratuitous comment but who did not have the courage to face the cameras on news programs and Sunday morning talk shows. It’s Republican governors and legislators who also refused to stand up and be counted in the name of ending the slaughter of innocents. It is also the insane among us who argue for the legality of concealed weapons and for armed educators, among others.
The often cited data about guns in this country are stunning. Over the past two years, as newly seated Senator Elizabeth Warren pointed out in a letter to her supporters, more than 6,000 children have been killed by guns. That number went up even after the Sandy Hook massacre: children died from guns on the day after the school shooting and on the day after that. (So did two police officers in Kansas.) Eighty-three Americans die every day from gun violence in America and eight of them are children or teenagers. That’s thousands every year, tens of thousands in the last decade alone.
The rest of the civilized world is stunned in disbelief, and so they should be.
It does no good to divert attention away from the urgent need to pass gun legislation immediately by talking about media violence and mental health issues. Certainly they are part of the picture and must be addressed in a comprehensive approach to stopping America’s madness. But the last thing we need to do is stigmatize people with autism or Asperger’s Syndrome, developmental disorders that bear no relation to violent behavior.
First and foremost, we must get a grip on our gun-loving culture. As Boston Mayor Tom Menino, a co-founder of Mayors Against Illegal Guns, has said, “Now is the time for a national policy on guns that takes the loopholes out of the laws, the automatic weapons out of our neighborhoods, and the tragedies like [Newtown] out of our future.”
It is the time to ban assault weapons and magazines that hold more than ten rounds. It is the time to close loopholes that allow 40 percent of gun sales to be sold without federal background checks because they are purchased privately at gun shows, online, or person-to-person.
The time for talk is over. No more discussing, decrying, deliberating. No more burying our children and binding our emotional wounds. No more prevaricating. No more politics.
What more is there to say? Except this: Enough! Enough senseless slaughter. Enough dead children who might have had lives filled with achievement and joy. Enough grieving parents and siblings and friends. Enough weeping with the multitudes.
Enough! We must stop being a country of killing fields. We must put an end to the false power of lobbying groups that some identify as terrorist organizations. We must say, with one voice, Enough! And we must mean it. Now.
I understand your grief. It’s difficult for us to process these senseless horrific actions. However, before we start pointing accusatory fingers and laying blame at the feet of others I suggest we all stop, take a breath and look deep in our souls. The wisest among us will recognize that we, as a society, all bear responsibility for what has happened. For those who don’t agree, I suggest you look in the mirror and ask yourself a few questions: What concrete actions have I taken to actively halt gun violence? How many letters have I written to my mayor, state representative, congress or president, demanding change to present gun laws? How many anti gun violence rallies have I attended? How many letters have I written to the NRA…before December 14th? What concrete actions have I taken to protest the increasing portrayal of violence in our mass media and video games that contribute to America’s gun culture?
Elayne, I typed “gun control” into your web site’s search engine and came up with one entry, dated December 20th 2012. Stop blaming others and go look in the mirror. Only love can conquer hate.
We ALL have blood on our hands.
Jordan Jancz
bassjordan@yahoo.com
http://jordanjancz.blogspot.com
Thanks for your comment, Jordan. I may not have written about gun control for a while – I have written about it before but not posted to my blog – but before you chastise me or anyone else too harshly, it would be wise to know what other steps I, or others, have taken. I am an activist in many realms with many methods. Perhaps you’d like to post for others what steps you have taken in, say, the last 2 years?
All I will say about the steps I’ve taken in the last two years is to acknowledge that they weren’t enough, Elayne.
I haven’t chastised anyone, nor publicly called them “monsters”, said they “did not have the courage to face the cameras” or called them out because they refused to “stand up and be counted”.
We will never find peace if we blame others for the ills of the world.
Only love can conquer hate.
Jordan Jancz
bassjordan@yahoo.com
http://jordanjancz.blogspot.com